Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts

Friday, January 01, 2021

My 2020


What a year it has been!

For most, if not all, it was not really a good year.

At the beginning of the year, I remember Taal Volcano erupted.  We are miles away from it but I remember it happening as a number of people are still reeling from the earthquakes in December 2019.  Classes were cut short and Christmas break came early at that time.  I remember the Taal Volcano eruption since Chesca's Kindermuisk classes had some changes to synchronize with their schedule in Manila.

I turned a year older in January.  All I can remember was that on the eve of my birthday, Chesca came to the room bringing a cake with a candle, which we blew together.  I cannot honestly recall how I spent my birthday.

February went on normally, although news about the Coronavirus started coming in.  JJ had to leave for Australia to study.

In the middle of March, classes were canceled. We stayed in our own house for about a week or two.  But when it became clear that the lockdown would be for a month or two, we decided to move to my parents' house as it is bigger and with more company, both for my parents and Chesca.

Our longtime helper was also asked by my Mom to leave due to misunderstandings.  So they were without any helper as well.

My second semester classes for Law School continued online.  I have already finished my classes and exams with my undergrad class for AdDU.  I was not able to give an exam for my UIC classes though.

Chesca did not have any issue staying at home for two months.  I think she enjoyed being with all of us, all day and night.

In April, we celebrated Chesca's 3rd Birthday party with a "Jungle Theme".  She still had fun with her stuff toy as her guests.  She enjoyed blowing her birthday candle several times and of course, opening her gifts.  I was so happy that I was still able to give her a themed birthday party.

During the two-month lockdown, I think I went out twice to buy stuff.  

Restrictions eased a bit by the middle of May .  I started reporting to the office.

I also got appointed as Assistant Dean of the AdDU - College of Law, which I am truly grateful.  I was not totally expecting it as it just came out of the blue.  I do remember that I received the news on Mother's Day.  

As the days went by, things got more busy with Law School as enrollment began.  Of course, a lot of transitioning happened with online delivery.  I had to attend meetings and training everywhere.  Add to the fact that I still had some lawyerly stuff to do.

Conducting online classes was not the easiest stuff to do, not to mention that I was handling 8 units for the first semester (What I was thinking?!?). Thankfully, I was able to manage all of it, though, I still have to finish checking the exams and submitting the final grades as of this writing.

I also had one undergrad with UIC.  It was not easy as well as I had to record all of my lectures.  The students did not have that much luxury being online with unstable internet connection and data consumption usage.  Yes, I talked to them and conducted exams wherein all I see are their profile pictures.  

Prior to the lockdown, Chesca started not wearing diapers during day time.  I wanted to use all her diapers first before to discontinue using it during night time.  But when I noticed that she does not pee on her diaper that much in the evening, I decided that it was about time.  So, it was in August were she started with no diapers at all.  It was such a breeze!  From the time she started not using diapers in the evening, I think she peed on the bed for less than 5 times.  At the onset, I brought her to pee in the middle of the night.  As the days progressed, she would also wake up and tell me she will go wee wee.  A few times, she went down the bed to go to the CR by herself (Of course, I noticed it and went with her).  

Chesca has her online classes as her school.  I think it does good for her.  But this is one thing that I had to juggle as well as I have to go home before her classes start at 4:00 pm, 3x a week.  Although, I am blessed that Johanna can cover for me at times.

Looking at Chesca watching Youtube videos of Disneyland and other places makes me sad as I want her to experience all of this.  We were supposed to go to London this December and I know how much she would have loved traveling.  I am really praying for better times, the sooner the better.

I still get teary eyed whenever I go to the mall and I see the Kidzoona and all those play areas closed and I can still all the toys.  

Watching and hearing the news are truly disheartening with the economic effect as a lot of people lost their income.  I continue to pray for better circumstances fo everyone.

Of course, there is that constant worry about this virus and constantly praying for protection for my family and friends all over the world.

Nonetheless, I am still grateful for our family is still surviving.  

Prior to the pandemic, I was extremely busy.  Things did not actually change after the two-month lockdown as I was still busy from May up to the present, maybe even more busy.

I am juggling things - taking care of my toddler, keeping our "room" clean and orderly, managing my classes and some administrative stuff, and coping up with my private practice.

I admit things have been hard between me and my spouse.  I am praying for things to be better.  

Here I am saying goodbye to 2020.  Yes, it was not that all bad for me.  I still do have a lot to thank for the year that was.  And I am so looking forward for better things this 2021!


Monday, September 11, 2017

Baby in the Tummy

Long time, no post!

I have a lot to share as to being married to Allan for over two years now.  I would have love to blog about our trips to Coron and Singapore.  But that has to be sidelined for now because I am more eager to share to you my journey to getting pregnant and eventually being a mother to my now 4-month old daughter Chesca.

Of course, my journey to getting pregnant started with being married to Allan.  I knew time was not on my side as I got married when I was already 35 years old.  I had a physical check-up, which turned out okay.  I then went to have my scoliosis check.  It is still there.  I was taught some exercises, which admittedly I have not done for quite some time now.  More importantly, I was told that it would be okay for me to get pregnant.

I then went to an ob-gyne to inquire as to whether I was fit to be pregnant.  To tell you frankly, it was my first time to consult with an ob-gyne.  I know, I should have done it sooner.

Anyway, I was told to wait it out for 6 months from getting married before resorting to fertility options.  I was told that it would be 1 year for those below 35.  Since I did not get pregnant after 6 months, the next step was to check whether my husband and I can bear a child.

And so we went to Brokenshire Fertility Clinic.  Nothing was found wrong with Allan and I.  I forgot what procedure was done to me but essentially they had a dye flow through inside me to show that my ovary and fallopian tubes are ok.  The funny thing about it was that I did not find it painful.  Thus, I was told that I have a high tolerance for pain.

Thereafter, I began taking ovulation induction pills.  Essentially, it is what it is - to induce ovulation.  I had to count days and was in constant contact with my ob-gyne.  Everytime I got my period was quite disappointing.  But we were determined.  This took place for 4 continuous months - pills, injections and negative pregnancy tests.

My ob-gyne then told us that the next step was for artificial insemination.  They refer to this as IUI.  So, we went through this procedure at Brokenshire.  Again, it was not that painful.  The actual procedure takes a few minutes only.  But I have to lay flat for almost an hour and I took a rest in the afternoon.

We were really anticipating that this was it.  Alas! It was not yet time.  I told my doctor about it and she said that we will try it again next month thereafter.  We asked how many times should we try IUI.  She replied at around 3 or 4 times.  We asked what would happen next if it would still not be successful?  Then, the next step was in-vitro fertilization.  We asked how much.  Our ob-gyne replied at around P390,000.00.  We did not have any budget for that.

So Allan and I discussed that we would try artificial insemination until we are allowed to.  If I would still not get pregnant by then, we were okay with it and will accept such circumstance wholeheartedly.  We were not that ready to resort to IVF.  

My ob-gyne has also explained to us that there are cases where the spouses don't get pregnant but there is really nothing physically wrong with them.  

While waiting for my next IUI procedure scheduled for October, I did not take any fertility pills and undergo any procedure.  We just waited it out.  Nonetheless, my husband said that if I don't get my period, I should still take a Pregnancy Test.  Nothing to lose so to speak.

A few days after I should have gotten my period, I took a pregnancy test.  Allan was out of town at that time.  However, it turned negative.  I informed Allan about it and rather asked why did I take it when he was not around.  I said if it turned out to be positive, I wanted to surprise him.  

Still a few days after that, I still did not get that period.  And so on that Saturday morning of October 1, 2017, I again took a pregnancy test.  And it was POSITIVE!  Two straight lines indeed!  Oh my, we were so happy!  I then took another one just to be sure!  It was still POSITIVE!



By God's grace, we were going to have a baby!

Wednesday, July 06, 2016

The Wedding (Part 3)

Since we already exchanged our vows, Allan and I were more laid back.

Well, there was an issue as to whether to have the cocktails in the open area or not as it was a bit cloudy.  It was an unfortunate issue but all's well that ends well.

Before going back to The View for the reception, I made sure to pass by our house so that our helpers, Tata and Mai Mai, as well as the dogs, will get to see us.

 At my parents' house
With Mai-Mai and Tata and the doggies, Charlie and Philip

 Allan and Jazzie at The View!  I love this picture!
 Stage Decor for the reception courtesy of FPD
Entrance of the newlyweds!  And yes, we're happy!
Last dance with my dad.
 First dance with Allan to the tunes of One Thing, Crazy Little Thing Called Love and What Makes You Beautiful.  See the Just Dance video at the back.  Yes, it was my idea as I think it was cool and fun to see us dance with that background.  And it also serves as our guide for our dance steps.  I think I only practiced with Allan 3 times, while Allan practiced more by himself, hehe
 Look at our guests in attendance!  We are truly grateful for their presence.  
And it seems they had a lot of fun!
 With our wedding cake courtesy of Sweet Advocate.  Another blooper here as we tried slicing first a layer that was not a cake.  We got confused whether to slice the third layer or the bottom layer, haha.  Oh well, memories!
 Cheers!
 My mom's time to speak!
 Dad's happy with mom's reference .. hehe
 Nanay's turn.
 Jeni, my sister and matron of honor, with her impromptu speech.  Touching!
 Allan still mesmerized with me ..hehe
It was also reunion time on my mom's side.  It was so happy to see my aunts, uncles, and cousins from Davao, Manila, Qatar and US.  Good times!
To Forever!

I am so happy I get to finish this blog just before our 1st wedding anniversary.  Cheers to forever!

The Wedding (Part 2)

This is the day that the Lord has made.  Let us rejoice and be glad!

For Allan and I, the most important was for us saying our vows before our Lord.  And so we did!

It was really a joyous event and we were so grateful to our guests who were there to witness our exchange of vows.  

To be frank, I really had no wedding jitters.  I can't say that I had butterfly in my stomach or that I was nervous with clammy hands.  I was just so looking forward to us getting married!

As I was waiting insider the bridal car outside of the church, I chanced upon our guests and was so happy to see so many of them.  And our principal sponsors were all complete.  It was really nice!

Fr. Gene, our officiating priest, is someone that Allan has known since his seminarian days.  We were so grateful that he was available for us.

Here are our pictures at the church.  Enjoy!


 I think I can safely say that Allan was happy and excited to get married to me!
 My baby brother, JJ, as our ring bearer!
 My sister Jeni and her daughter Ally .. so cute!
 Another nice picture of my parents!
And may I just say I love the flower arrangements.  I really wanted it to be like that so the guests can see people walking down the aisle.  I really wanted our wedding to be more about people - us, our family, and our friends - rather than the decorations.
 The bubbling bride .. haha!  I didn't notice it but I was told I walked a bit fast down the aisle.  
I guess I was also excited to get married.
 A bit emotional!
 Listening to our story .. as told by Fr. Gene.
 Such a blooper!  I was putting the wedding ring on the wrong finger.  
And I thought, it did not fit .. haha.  Good thing we realized it.
 Our guests!
 The kiss!
Yes! We're married!


The Wedding (Part I)

This is the day that the Lord has made.  Let us rejoice and be glad!

The morning of my wedding quite "normal".  We were not necessarily in a frantic in our household. In fact, there was so much good vibes with my niece, cousins, uncles, aunties, sisters, brother, mom and dad.  We left our house and went to the The View for our make-up.

Well, we were quite early as our make-up artists were not yet around.  But I did not panic (yet!) .. haha.  To pass the time, my cousins roam around while my sister pulled out some of my white hair .. haha.  

We eventually got started with our make-up.  Then, we had the pictorials.  Oooh, I did not expect such number of pictures to be taken .. haha.  There were a few issues here and there, such as the motif (it was coral and turquoise, by the way .. not an easy color though .. hehe) and our lunch, which turned out to be okay.  In the end, it was really a wonderful and joyous occasion!

Here are a few snapshots of our wedding day before the ceremony.

Enjoy!

                                      
I just love our wedding invitation.  This was actually inspired by my friend Janice' wedding invitation.  And I really liked our caricature (inspired by other weddings)

No frills!  Easy-open .. hehe!  

 
My bouquet was perfect!

 I love my wedding gown! (Courtesy of Kasuotan by Erwin Tan)

 The rings! Great picture by the team of Richard Padillo Photography

With RJ, my make-up artist.  I got to know him since he was also the make-up artist of my friend, Bajo, for her December 2015 wedding.  I really loved my make-up that day!  And his team did the make-up for my entourage as well.  His rate was also affordable.

 I love this picture of me with my mom as it shows how my mom is so concerned with even the minute details, hehe. I was wearing a different pair of earrings (which she gave to me before) and she suggested that I change it to another pair of earrings she had with her.

 Pictorial session!

 With my bridesmaids!

Such a nice picture of my mom and dad!

 Family picture, with my niece Ally.  
It was the first visit to the Philippines for my brother-in-law, Edward. 
 My youthful and unique entourage! (With the crying Ally!)
 Another very nice picture with my entourage!
I feel pretty, oh so pretty .. haha!
 My groom with his entourage!
 The groom's entourage featuring my cousin AJ, all the way from US of A!
 With nanay.
 Allan's family
 Waiting ...
Japorms!